Un-be-freaking-liev-able!

Of all the millions and millions of women on Facebook how did I get rooted out?

Just when I thought things were looking up and my confidence was growing a mutual Facebook friend messages ME (can you believe it!?) and explains how he follows and enjoys my posts and has been into me for a while. Truthfully, at first I thought he was joking because it’s really rare when anyone’s into me. 😥 I’m just a rare breed. 🤷🏽‍♀️

However, I was EXTREMELY FLATTERED. He asked in a round about way if I ever wanted to hangout sometime (and luckily he’s local) so I said yes, but apparently he’s very, very, very busy. 🤔

He’s the total opposite of the type of man that I’d date in every way possible, but he seemed very charming and I need to stop letting these type of persnickety details get in the way of finding a partner.

I’m a very patient person to a certain extent. We Facebook messaged for a bit, till I decided to push my number at him. The first push I felt like he ignored it. Then I did it again, basically a reminder, that it was his idea to hangout in the first place. So let’s hangout. I wanted to meet him.

He finally calls. We speak for 45 min. He does most of the talking which is wonderful. Normally the men I attract don’t like to talk. They allow me do all the oversharing.

Before the call was over on last Tuesday night he told me how he was going to be very busy the next few days and he started rattling off days. I told him I wouldn’t be able to remember his schedule and that I needed to write it down. He must have thought I was joking, but I wasn’t. He told me not to worry about it, but that he would be sending me little football messages (the type back in highschool where you fold up the pager into little triangles; which I assumed were text messages) periodically. I told him that I’d appreciate that.

Well, Wednesday passed, Thursday Thanksgiving Day passed, Friday (the day I know he mentioned something about driving down to my city for a possible date) passed, Saturday passed. I didn’t hear a peep from him. By Saturday night I was FURIOUS! 🔥😡 If your asking yourself why I didn’t text him it’s because if a person tells me they’re going to be busy, busy, busy, they thing I want to do is disrespect that and disturb them. However;

A man who is thinking about you is never too busy or can’t go a day without texting you.

Why do I feel played? I’m done. This is over NOW.

When someone has interest in me I need to know why

Yes, I want to be in a relationship, but I’m still afraid. I thought I was ready, but after the DateBritishGuys, experience, I’m done petrified all over again.

The last fellow just made me feel unworthy all over again, or perhaps I made myself feel unworthy, or perhaps he was a narcissist.

I called this fellow out on his lack of interest in getting to know me, then he accused me of trying to sabotage a relationship that hadn’t even began yet just because I told him that I didn’t think he was fully invested in getting to know me, i.e., he barely texted. He maybe gave me 5 minutes of his time a day.

I felt My right to question this was purely legitimate. So I thought I’d give him 2nd chance to behave differently, but he he didn’t. So I bailed. I’m a quitter. So what. I don’t have the energy any more to keep trying.

When I say bailed I mean, I un-followed him on Twitter, uninstalled my WhatsApp app and blocked him. Perhaps his only interest in me was motive based. Which I now believe was just so he could use me to get him into the U.S.A. 🤷🏽‍♀️

At the end of the day…

I’m going to be mentally refucked no matter what what new method of thinking I try.

A man’s negative reactions and behaviors towards me are what I’ve come to expect. Some women just have it, some women don’t. I never have.

A beautiful woman will tell a plain woman to simply start thinking the opposite of what she really is i.e., “she’s all that” and men will start being attracted to her. So the plain woman runs to put makeup on and starts thinking, “she’s all that’s.” Nothing changes. Bob, still doesn’t give her a second glance. Now wtf was that about!

This dating site is a joke

Datebritishmen a site where if you merely mention that you’d move overseas to be with your mate it means RIGHT FRIGGIN NOW. That is not the impression that I thought was gonna happen. I figured I’d meet my British love, we’d date online, visit, after a year or two then we’d move to one another’s country and live happily ever after.

Nope, not this site. A guy who I thought seemed like a good match according to his profile actually didn’t even want to get to know me at all, but instead wanted to leave the country. I was almost down with that if he hadn’t made me feel like I wasn’t good for anything else. He didn’t even seem interested in ME.

The red flags flew left and right. Right off the bad he started talking about his ex being a narcissist. Heck, mine is too, and Lord knows I didn’t want to bring him up to use as an example in some I got accused of comparing. There were so many other red flags that at times I just wanted to ignore them all because I hate being right and ending up alone.

Okay, so I’m online dating

I think…

I don’t know, it’s a whole new experience for me. I don’t know what they hell I’m doing. How do you date exactly? The word date means different things to different people.

I even had this discussion with my therapist and I ended up in tears. Why does life have to be so complicated for me. Why must I make it so complicated? All I know that’s it’s time for me to just plug my nose and jump in the deep end and stop being such a coward. I’m not going to find a partner sitting inside my apartment.

There’s this dating site called DateBritishGuys. It’s exactly what I’ve been looking for. I just had to put in the correct words into Google search and that is what I pulled up.

Yes, I have always dreamed of being with a British man. ❤️ All of my entire life, but I didn’t know how on earth I was going to meet a British man. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Surprised it took me this long to actually do this, but so far it’s been an experience. There’s been some ups and downs on this particular site. I mean, I did actually pay for a three month subscription afterwards if nothing comes of it, I may as well become a nun. Nevermind, I practically am one already. Lol